Marriage is a calling to a particular person and to a particular way of life. Married life brings many joys to a husband and wife: the joy of devoted and caring companionship, a sharing of mutual goals, the nurturing and support of a loving spouse in times of challenge as well as times of celebration, and, or most married couples, the joy of raising children together. This does not mean every single day of marriage if a honeymoon. There will be challenges, but the Sacrament of Matrimony brings the grace of God into this relationship of marital love.

Marriage requires mutual respect and mutual love. This sacrament is not just about having a church wedding. It is about the lifetime commitment to one in love.

The Church, through the Sacrament of Matrimony, asks this commitment of every married man and woman because God does, because it is God’s plan for the happiness of the human family. This kind of lifetime commitment takes prayer and preparation.

The union of a baptized man and a baptized woman in Marriage is a sign and symbol of God’s covenant with his people, a covenant of love and grace in Jesus Christ.

God created marriage, and it is part of his wonderful plan for human life. Because we are made in the image and likeness of God, we are made for love. Thus, marriage is not a purely human institution. Marriage has been planned by God to bring about two great goods: the good of the man and woman pledged to each other, and the procreation and education of children.

In Sacred Scripture, Jesus refers back to the Book of Genesis, where it reads, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body” (Gen 2:24). This is the reason marriages cannot be dissolved: “so they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate (MT 19:6).

Christ raised marriage in the New Covenant, marriage between Christians, to the dignity of a Sacrament.

This does not, however, mean that a spouse should put themselves in danger or allow their human dignity to be lessened because of a wayward spouse. There may need to be a separation. Or in some cases, the marriage, after proper evaluation, might never have occurred because of specific issues present at the time of the wedding. A qualified Church official can help explore these issues.

The ideal, however, set by God, is that a man and a woman, joined in marriage, form one body, and are open to the bringing forth of children into this world, and to their education.

The Sacrament of Matrimony should not be entered into lightly. There is a process of prayer and discernment involved. The couple should meet with a priest or deacon, and should also take part in a quality marriage preparation program. Please consult St. Rene Parish for more details.




God created man and woman out of love and commanded them to imitate his love in their relations with each other. Man and woman were created for each other…Woman and man are equal in human dignity, and in marriage both are united in an unbreakable bond. (United States Catholic Catechism for Adults, Ch. 21, p. 279)